True Crime, Weed, & Leggings: Making Consent Matter in a Hookup Culture

Canna Flavor of the Day: Homegrown Blue Dream in a joint.

Music Vibes: I'm Good-Jelly Roll

I finally got to enjoy a thunderstorm & sat outside until thunder cracked just above my head. I jumped so high I nearly fell out of my chair. I yelled at OM to follow & I was out! I have way too many trees to sit outside when the storm is that close—I’m not trying to be the Wicked Witch of the East. I’ll keep my evil, witchy ways, but I don’t need a house taking me out so someone can steal my shoes.

Smoked a Blue Dream preroll, had a mint edible, & threw on Natalia Kills Radio. Being social is clearly a new norm that I have to get used to. Being social is clearly a new norm I have to get used to. I get creeped out too easily by new people & either stick to my people or go find a hiding spot to calm my anxiety. My nerves turn me into a judgmental asshole because I don’t know how to handle uncomfortable emotions. I act tough, but I really just want to run & hide. My nerves turn me into a judgmental asshole because I don't know how to deal with bad emotions. I act tough, but I really want to run & hide. ((Revisiting this article in 2026, I’m still an asshole—but I can finally admit I am & always have been a kind, loving, & generous person.) Bro… just don’t. Seriously, women will tell you if they want a picture.

Learn consent. Period.

We don't care how impressive it is, unless we are fucking horny & don't want to know about anything else. Unsolicited pics & consent go hand in hand—if it’s not clearly asked for, it’s not respect, it’s crossing a line.

Don't fucking assume we want to see your dick. Even if we've seen it before, or even if we have fucked before, unless we tell you that is what we want. You don't know where our mind is at, you don't know if we have someone else in our bed & you're forcing us to have an awkward conversation. Don’t fucking slap me with an unexpected cock just because you’re horny—especially not because I’ve been easy or welcomed it before.

Just because I can be easy, doesn't mean I don't deserve respect. Dude, I've had more unsolicited dick pics & porn sites sent to me than I care to remember. Even from a "friend" who knew I was going through a rough time. I'd wake up to pictures of a cock, instead of "Hey, how are you doing?" Even after I made it clear that was the last thing I wanted.

Bro, is your self-esteem so low, or is your respect for me low? Either way, it's unacceptable, especially if we're friends. The thing is, the more unsolicited dick pics I get, the more I lose respect for that person. I’ll keep them around if it benefits me or if they’re genuinely a good person. Sometimes, even dumbasses still need a friend. Just don't ever let a "friend" disrespect you. Real friends won't, & if they do, they clearly don't fucking belong in your life. (In the revisit, I give men fewer chances. Being friends or dating doesn’t give you the right to disrespect me. I remove myself from unsatisfactory situations—if I don’t want to be there, I won’t be. If it doesn’t feel good, I’m out. It’s that simple.)

Ladies, the same goes for us! I rarely send a naughty pic, & when I do, it’s to someone I’m dating & I know wants it. Don’t assume you’re the one a guy jacks off to & send something you might regret. Babes, men are usually easy when it comes to what they want; they'll straight up ask for a sexy pic when they want one. Go for it, but also don't be afraid to tell them to fuck off if you're not into it.

If you send a pic & they don't send one in return, don't feel bad about yourself or make them feel guilty. Maybe your comfort level is at a different place than theirs.

Communication & consent are key when sending naughty pictures. Maybe they’ve got some weird shit going on that they need to heal before sending one. Kidding. Just don't let it bother you, & don't pressure them into being more sexty than what they give you, even if they give you nothing. There's a reason. Making consent matter isn’t optional—it’s the difference between respect & disrespect in a hookup culture that too often ignores boundaries.

Have you ever dealt with unsolicited pics or crossed boundaries? Drop your thoughts below—I want to hear your experiences & how you handled them.

Anyways, that’s my lecture for the morning. If you want more ass-whoopins & real talk like this, subscribe. Don’t forget—you get a free 90 Day Gratitude Journal when you do.

Moral of it all is: Fucking respect one another & keep those unsolicited dick pics to yourself!

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