Life's Too Short, So Make Sure The Dick Isn't: Overcoming Life's Shortcomings (Revisited)

Canna Flavor of the Day: Loud- Acai Gelly

Music Vibes: Ghostface-Drayce Music

Take that however you will. Just don't go cry in a corner.

Overcoming life's shortcomings isn’t about perfection — it’s about showing up, learning, & moving forward no matter what hits you along the way. I'm having trouble feeling inspired today. (Funnily enough, when I revisit this article to edit & repost, I am in the same kind of funk.) Maybe smoking some Acai Gelly from Loud will help me. It's hard to write about travel when you're in a stay-at-home order, or when everything is so goddamn expensive. But that doesn't mean I can't plan for when it is lifted, or find other ways to move toward my ultimate goal. What places do readers want to read about, written by the lovely BDL? What locations do you dream of visiting?

After listening to badass music from a friend, I was on a roll — dancing in the shower & feeling good. I knew I was going to have a good day. I had no idea wtf I was going to do, but I just knew I'd be pretty damn good. Then, just like that, I see a post that put me in a very negative mindset. I allowed it to — just that quickly. I saw it & I knew I had to get myself out of it. Came out to my firepit area to smoke, not look at social media & listen to Pandora. (It's 2026 now & I am still working on not allowing the thoughts or actions of others to sway my mood or ruin my day.)

I reached out to a friend to help get me out of that headspace, & as soon as I was about to text her to say I'm in a better mindset, no need to worry, I had another friend reach out. It's someone watching over me, telling me to be happy. Maybe the same couple of people I was feeling so guilty over. They're saying, leave the guilt, heartbreak, & hurt in the past. SEE the people you have NOW. Ooh...chillz. (Or in Crime Junkie's podcast, "full body chills") Our past helps shape who we are, but we cannot obsess over it. It is what it is. Learn from it & move the fuck on. I'm not directing this towards anyone besides myself, but maybe someone else needs to hear it.

So far, I’ve said Tennessee is probably the first place I’ll go — mainly because of the whiskey. Just kidding, although I do want to try some of their local whiskey. (Let's be real, I was hella stoned & for some reason Tennessee just kept popping in my mind.) Once I get Tennessee readers, you guys better recommend some local places! I've felt like Santorini, Greece, is a place overseas I want to visit. Mainly because of seeing pictures & it's warm, but I'd also love to learn about Greek culture. I already have plans to visit family, new friends, & old, already in the US. I also have everyone in my dream team aware of my vision & hopefully they will be traveling with me on occasion, too! It’s nice seeing what my vision will bring to my life, to those I care about, & to my intended audience — those who just need someone like me.

I have a strong belief that each one of us is meant to be here. Each one of us has at least one person, if not many, who needs the positive we can bring to life while we are in it. We all have people in our lives who are either meant to be there for a short period or a long one, but we are meant to learn from them.

I'm out here coughing like crazy. I'm sure my neighbors who don't know I smoke think I have the 'rona. It's all good, guys, I'm only dying because I took a huge hit. Carry on. (Yes, I joked at the time, but the spread of the coronavirus was a very serious, very sad matter & unfortunately, we lost a lot of people worldwide. Nobody knew the severity of it when it started.)

I keep coming up with new ideas on how I can reach new people, new personalities. How can I inspire more people without being a fuckin’ creep about it or letting shit get to my head? That's something that I'm constantly beating myself up for. I don't want to get cocky & say something like "They need me, more than I need them." No, everything needs to be mutually beneficial; this includes coworkers, relationships, & friendships. Pets are the exception because they're assholes. Kidding!! OM found his perfect Sun spot & is sitting there with his ears perked up the way that I like. (I sure do miss both of our pitty doggos.) I wouldn't be here without my family, friends, readers, & pets, so I am and will be forever grateful for those who saw something in me when I wasn't able to see it in myself.

I don’t understand why people clip a dog’s ears. Between that & a pitty smile, idk what shows their personality more. Go to your local animal shelter & look into adopting before going to a breeder, those animals bring so much love & need so much love. There are so many animals that need a home that is perfect for them. No judgment to those who breed or decide to go with a breeder, but no matter how loving the people at the shelter are, it's never the same as having a home. I love finally feeling like I have a home. It's the same for animals. That's why, after I've been busy for a few days in a row, or my mind is scattered & I can't go to Grandparents, I need to be at my home. It took a long time for me to feel like my house was my home. As an adult, I’ve lived in a few different places, & it takes me a while to feel like it’s home. My own batcave, my getaway.

What is home to you?

Who is home to you?

Life’s too short to stay stuck — whether that’s in a funk, in guilt, in fear, or in a zip code that doesn’t feel like home. We’re allowed to dream about Tennessee whiskey, Santorini sunsets, & the version of ourselves that keeps growing through all of it. We’re allowed to plan, pivot, smoke a little Acai Gelly, shake off the bad mood, & keep moving forward anyway. So tell me — where do you dream of going, & what does “home” really mean to you? Drop it in the comments & let’s build this vision together. Thank you for being here, for reading, & for growing with me — if you haven’t already, make sure you subscribe so you never miss a post.

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