Real Life Advice from A Beautiful Disaster Lit (Revisted)

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I wrote this a while ago thinking about advise I wish I had or real life advice that I think people need.

Pay attention to the ones who say they're there for you — but disappear when it matters.

Pay attention to those who are.

Keep in mind those people who brush you off when you say you want or need to hang out.

Pay attention to those who show up.

Remember the “friend” who makes you do all the emotional labor.

Remember the friends who reciprocate a healthy relationship.

Look at the ones who can't take a minute to catch up.

Then turn around and look at those who have your back.

Look at the proud faces of your supporters.

Don't let the ones who drop everything when you need them be lost in the sea of fake faces.

Choose your time wisely, pick the ones who are there.

Behind every unsupportive, envious face, you have 20 who are inspired and want to see you succeed, just as much as you want to see them.

Remember those faces.

When you're ready to give up, remember those who are proud to be in your presence.

Remember those who belittle you, as opposed to raising you up.

Think of every single step and those who've shown you that you're really not alone.

When you're annoyed that someone isn’t contacting you, use that fire to build something for yourself. (Literally something I tell myself ALL of the time.)

Make your mind, body, and soul smile.

Don't forget the little things and be grateful for the small, just as much as the big.

Remember the genuine smiles and remember the belly laughs.

Keep your safe people close and be a safe place for them.

Be a good neighbor and be a loyal friend.

Take time for yourself and learn to be mindful and present.

You can be grateful without overextending yourself.

You can be appreciative and still decline an invite.

It's ok to dismiss those who dismiss you, & it's ok to take time for you.

It's ok to only love those who love you, but be kind and give love to those who need it too.

Be open — but set boundaries like a mo-fo and stand on them. (Past me telling present me to be open. Why am I the one who calls myself out the most without even realizing it?)

Remember, it's ok to say no, and it's just as ok to say yes. Don't let fear keep you from living the most fulfilled life you can.

Say no to fucktards and abusive behavior, don't be a fucktard with abusive behavior.

Say yes to yourself and yes to your dreams and never stop moving forward, even if it's slowly. (Well shit, here's past self speaking to present self again.)

Enjoy that lazy Sunday, but don't forget to kick ass on Monday.

Set your phone down on your smoke break and enjoy life. Put your phone in airplane mode and be mindful, even if for 10 minutes.

Take the time to enjoy life, but don't forget to kick ass too.

YOU are fucking amazing, and you deserve to be treated as such, by every person you choose to keep in your life.

Remember that we all struggle, we all make mistakes, but it's how we move forward from them.

Please don't ever ignore the red flags and listen to your gut. Don't ever intentionally be someone else's red flag, or you're an asshole.

The world needs you, the you who is uniquely unabashedly you. So don't change, but never stop trying to be the best version of yourself.

Live without fear (even from spiders, Ash) or at least try to. (Coming back to this years later, life will always have fear & yes, sometimes you can't get past it, that's ok, but still try to conquer the fears that you can.)

Smile at a stranger, laugh with a friend, eat with family, and remember who you are.

You're going places if you work for it, but don't forget to be happy and never lose yourself.

I want each of you to live your best life, and I want you to see me live mine.

Thank you all for who you are to me, even if it's a supportive blog read. If this hit you, share it with someone who needs the reminder — or drop a comment with the advice you wish you had sooner. Let’s grow out loud together.

Have the best fricken week!

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