Just Don't Spit On Yourself, Doofus (Revisited)

A little admonishment I whispered to myself, as I found myself stressing out as I was getting ready for a first date, trying to decide on what to wear. I had my makeup on, started getting dressed, and found myself stressing about throwing on my T-shirt before or after brushing my teeth. "Just in case I spit on myself." After stressing longer than I should have, I thought, "WTF. Just don't spit on yourself, doofus."

If you find yourself stressing about what to wear, curling your hair, or basic mundane things, you need to work on that confidence!! You've fucking got this & if you spit on yourself, so what?! There's another shirt or five in your closet. If your hair isn't ideal, who gives a fuck? Rock the messy hell of your hair, silently cursing it.

It's natural to be nervous about meeting anyone new, but if you're slowly losing the enjoyment, mystery, & excitement, and that's no Bueno. Who cares?!?! They either like the person you are, or they don't. I assure you, there are plenty of people loving every little thing about you, even the little annoyances. If this new person can't see that you're a badass, find the one who will because those who refuse to see your worth aren't the only people left on this planet. There are plenty of people who will love you as you are.

My point is, be the fucking badass you are and let others see it. I know from personal experience that being fake all of the time is exhausting & makes one miserable. There may be some situations where you might not react like you normally would, even in a guarded way, and that's fine, but living your whole life as a fraud is a very sad and lonely place.

Be Happy! You don't know what tomorrow can bring, you don't need to stress the mundane shit. Things will all turn out. I know it's sometimes difficult, but have faith because you're resilient & strong. You've survived so much to this point, which includes many first dates. Something as little as accidentally spitting toothpaste on yourself shouldn't ruin your mood so much that it ruins your day. It's ok.

Girls and Boys. I DID NOT spit on myself.

Give yourself credit, we are badasses & life isn't worth living if we can't give ourselves the compassion we have always wanted, the same compassion we extend to others. We are good enough. Why can't we turn on our kid brain, where we didn't have a care in the world aside from being happy & doing things we enjoyed? We didn't see color, most of us didn't give a shit what the next person was wearing, if their house was clean or not, or if one was poor or rich. We just cared about whether we were having a good time with the person or not.

If you see a friend and they look rockin' tell them. Don't you dare get self-conscious, thinking they look better than you do. Know that you look badass too. It's not a competition. Nobody is going to have the perfect everything & maybe they need your encouragement.

As kids, we just wanted to have fun with our people. So fucking hug yourself today, even if you spit on yourself, it's ok. You may not even make a sloppy mess of yourself & the date may go better than you expected. (It didn't. Bye boy!

) Let's all take back the confidence we had as kids, crooked bangs in school pictures and all, not giving a fuck!

Thank you all for continuing to read my blog. You're going to make it, regardless if you spit on yourself or not. Just wipe it away.

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